Missy Piggy Returns!

Abracadabra!! And the missing Missy Piggy is back!

I've been away for a little while now and partly because of work and partly because.... *Drums rolls....*

Because I have been swept off my feet by a lovely gentleman.

It wasn't love at first sight (I've actually known him for more than 3 years now)
But he certainly caught my attention when I least expected.

So I recently revisited and ranked Mr Ace with Love Hack Matrix.
And he scored at a 90+ percentile and no one has ever... I mean seriously no one EVER came up at such a high score.

Thank you Mr Ace. Thank you for being amazing, charming and intriguing.
Thank you for discovering me and embarking on this journey together.

You are awesome.

Love
Missy Piggy

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Love Hack - How I Hack My Way Into Finding Love (Part 2)

 

 
In Love Hack Part 2, it is now the time to do some ranking out of the list of 50 traits of What are you looking for in a mate.

First step will involve ranking them to three different categories:

• Mandatory - Die die must have (10 points)
• Essential - Good to have (5 points)
• Negligible - Don't have also ok(1 points)

After my first attempt in ranking the 50 traits, I realized I have placed a whole chunk of  29 characteristics into the first mandatory category. Oh boy, I am demanding I thought to myself.

So to be more realistic, another category "deal breaker" will help to determine the first and most important benchmark. This category will have the most points (50 points) and will certainly make or break the possibilities of a potential date.

Version 1 now looks like this:

Right click, view image or click here to see full table.

The total possible score is 805. With a mean score of 402.5, I think the average score 400 serves as a good benchmark to qualifies as a potential. Of course the spreadsheet can be revisited when you get to know the person better overtime.

Let's proceed with some sample checks.

Mr Geek is an ex colleague and friend for years now. He semi unwillingly surrender himself as my first guinea pig. Has a sense of humor checked, respectful checked, honesty checked. Final score of 301. Hmm, as a platonic friend, I think that result is fairly reasonable.

Mr NYPD, actually someone I knew from LAX airport when I was transiting to Houston. We still kept in touch till now but he is physically FAR FAR AWAY from Singapore. Based on my understanding, he is positive, confident, passionate, improves his physical health, knows the importance of family. Final score: 434. Should I deduct score because he is not physically in the same country as me and I don't see ourselves being in the same country anytime soon? Oh well, he's cute. :P

Mr Green. I've actually known Mr Green for more than 8 years now. We don't meet very often but we did express interest to each other back then. Surprisingly his score is only around 367. Maybe, the numbers do speak some truth.

Mr Southie has been a friend for at least 3 years? He is currently not physically in Singapore as he travels a lot for work. Another surprise that he scored 416 which is above the mean score. Do I see myself being with him? I actually don't think so. Note to self, a pinch of salt here.

Mr Classmate for the final testing and to make sure the system works alright. And fair enough, his final score is around 323.

I've known most peers in this sample test for at least couple of years. So I don't really know how well the Love Hack Score Matrix will help me in translating scores for new friends. But I think a few tweaks along the way is inevitable.

Just in time for this dating event I am going to attend this Saturday!

Love
Missy Piggy

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Love Hack - How I Hack My Way Into Finding Love (Part 1)

At this point of this posting, nope, I have yet to find love.
But am I confident that I will find love one day? Hell yes!!!

So we have been reading TONS of relationship related articles, heard endless advices from married peers and nagging mums. How exactly do we find love for ourselves?!!! I don't know the answer for each and every individual but I think most of us fail to find love because we are not doing anything much apart from leaving the chance of our relationship in the hands of fate.

NOW I am not going to sit on my arse and wait for love to find me, I am going to give it an attempt to hack my way into love.

The two major points are:

1) Identify what I was looking for in a mate.
2) Develop my own algorithm and rules for love.

As you can sense by now, my thoughts about finding love has a lot to do with self awareness, defining yourself and identifying what you want. You have already won half the battle if you can list down in specifics, the traits you are looking for in a partner and give your best shot in trying to stick with your list (of course the list can be updated along the way)

So in the first part of my article, here's my list off the top of my head. Of course the guy doesn't have to meet all of them and some points might be a bit silly -

What are you looking for in a mate (in no particular order)

1. He is honest
2. He is positive
3. Committed and faithful
4. He is confident
5. He understands and enjoys food. (live to eat, not eat to live)
6. He cooks
7. He is a traveler and has traveled to at least 3 continents
8. Has a sense of humor
9. He has true and close friendships
10. He improves his physical health
11. He knows the importance of family
12. Balanced in life (life is not just about work work and work)
13. He knows how to take care of himself
14. He has a good and progressive career
15. He weighs at least 10kg more than me at all times.
16. He is interested in scuba diving
17. He has temperance (moderate in action, thought, feeling and yup alcohol. Thinks before he acts)
18. He wants to have his own family and wants kids
19. He is intelligent and would challenge and stimulate me
20. He understands the importance of personal space
21. He listens
22. He is respectful (to family, friends and strangers)
23. He is financially savvy (knows how to take care of his money and budgeting)
24. He is curious and adventurous about life
25. He’s humble
26. He knows how to occasionally let his hair down and enjoy life
27. He is generous (not just monetary but also sharing his life and heart with his love ones)
28. He has gratitude
29. He seeks peace
30. He provide guidance 
31. He's driven 
32. He's a good communicator
33. He's a protector. He is able to and wants to take care of you
34. He is in the same location (or has plans to be)
35. He is sensitive enough to your emotions and acknowledges them.
36. He is trustworthy
37. He practices humility. (It’s much more admirable to find a man who can admit his wrongdoings, which in the end prevents plenty of arguments.) 
38. He is down to Earth
39. He is responsible
40. He loves me for who I am, the way I am
41. He will spend time with me
42. He will encourage me
43. He is proud of my accomplishments
44. He will build me up and not tear me down
45. He will make me feel secure and loved
46. He doesn’t make me worry or fearful
47. He is romantic
48. He is passionate
49. He is not too clingy
50. He is mature

Long list I know!!

In the second part of my article, I will be prioritizing the list and ranking everything with a scoring system. There will of course be some deal breakers because certain things are quite important to me and I think it is critical to share some common traits for a relationship in a longer run.

I will then figure out a minimum score before I will agree to go out on a date or a different score to rank if the guy is a keeper.

This is a lot about me, me and me I know. But this is also an important exercise to find out a rough guide of what Missy Piggy looks for in a man.

Stay tune for part 2!

Love
Missy Piggy

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